Educated Messes: Mental Health, Relationships, Work, & Well-Being

In this episode we get a bit less structured and a bit more vulnerable. We have a free flowing conversation about how we’ve been managing our mental and physical health during a global pandemic, joy triggers, gratitude practices, and swimming. We touch on our physical and mental health journeys including the huge impact of hormones, the two big diagnoses Kyla’s gotten in the past year, and the serious complications Kelsey faced during a recent dental surgery. We talk about taking an active role in your own healing, both mentally and physically, and how important it is to advocate for yourself in the health care system. This and much, much more in our first "Messy Thoughts" episode. Let us know if you like this type of ep. and want to hear more in the future!

 

Note: Our offer to include free ad reads for BIPOC-owned businesses still stands and will continue to stand.

In this episode we talk about limiting beliefs — what they are, where they come from, how to recognize yours, and what to do about them. We touch on cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), unhelpful thinking patterns, and why our brains tend to notice and cling to negative things more than positive ones. Kyla gets a sexy sound quality boost and says a lot of words that are really hard to pronounce, Kelsey talks about her desire for control, and Kyla dishes on what she talks about in therapy.

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In this episode/ group therapy session we talk all about boundaries, how to set them, how to tell if someone’s crossing one of yours, and how respect your OWN damn boundaries!! Kyla talks about one of her favourite tools (nonviolent communication) Kelsey dishes about some mean-ass DM’s, we bring up our girl Glennon Doyle again, and both try our best to think of descriptors other than “interesting”.

In this episode we discuss the pressure we put on ourselves to constantly be creating OUTPUT and we touch on why hinging your worth on external factors is not a great idea. Kyla continues to have so. many. mantras., Kelsey advocates for doing shit for no reason, Kyla finds deep meaning in Animal Crossing and we talk about pottery AGAIN. 

 

Note: Because every month in 2020 feels like an entire new year has gone by, we feel the need to note that we recorded this episode back in May (before we re-recorded Episode 01). At that time the murder of George Floyd and the subsequent BLM demonstrations had not yet occurred, which is the reason we do not address it in this episode. As we mentioned in our first episode, we want to continue to hold space to amplify black voices. Our offer to include free ad reads for black-owned businesses still stands (and will continue to stand). We’re working to record a permanent reminder of this that we will include in each podcast.

Another note: Hi. It’s Kyla. I just— my mic quality is driving me insane in the fact check…maybe we’ll do an episode on perfectionism some day… that's literally all, I just wanted to say that. Bye.

In our first full length episode we discuss why there’s so much weight behind “failing”, and what does it even mean to fail, anyway? Kyla discusses her Big Failure of 2019, Kelsey talks about why she pretended she didn’t know how to ride a bike, and we try (and fail) to remember so. many. quotes. Come along with us as we both find a lot of things Very Interesting.

In this short, sweet, and sexy episode, we introduce ourselves and fill you in on what you can expect from Educated Messes (aka: 2020 mid-20s crisis content). Kyla kills it at ice breakers, Kelsey admits she doesn’t know how to cry, and we both agree that nothing ever makes sense at all.